How can I control my temper and learn to watch what I say before I say it?

I get really upset sometimes and when I do I say things just to piss ppl off. Even if I don't mean it, I say it just to make the other person as mad as I am. I get so mad to the point I want to hit something or somebody. I'll start to get really nervous and shaky and cry. How can I control my anger?How can I control my temper and learn to watch what I say before I say it?
OMG!! i have the EXACT SAME THING! its like i don't (always) intentionally try to piss people off when i am mad, but when i'm mad its like another person! then i yell things and feel bad afterward...im going to get tested for bipolar soon, maybe you should too! also, if im really really really angry, you have to tell yourself to SHAKE IT OFF and its only one little thing to upset you. this requires an enourmous amount of will power, i know, but just give it a try!!





%26lt;3 hope i helped!!How can I control my temper and learn to watch what I say before I say it?
You need to count t o 10 before you respond to things that would normally annoy you.


Remember the shaking and nervousness and ask your self if its really worth it?


Begin in time to ignore the little things and only put up a fight or argument for the things that are REALLY important to you, don't sweat the small stuff cuz its not worth getting high blood pressure over


Ask yourself..'can i just let this one go? because i don't care enough to get upset over it'. if you can count first, then just remove yourself from the situation calmly.



Here are some anger management tips to help get your anger under control:





Take a ';time out.'; Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper.


Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.


Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as ';take it easy.'; You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga.


Once you're calm, express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you simply can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person.


Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Write a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues.


Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation.


Use ';I'; statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say ';I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening,'; instead of, ';You should have helped with the housework.'; To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions.


Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.


Use humor to release tensions, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though 鈥?it's just another form of unhealthy expression.


Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions.


Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up.