Why is it taboo to say that many women are irresponsible about birth control?

Sex selective abortion is wrong, but abortion because a woman didn't use reliable birth control is okay? I know that there is no form of birth control that is 100% reliable, but birth control is effective enough to prevent most accidental pregnancies, and therefore prevent most abortions. Why is sex selective abortion so wrong when abortion because a woman didn't use reliable birth control is okay? Why should the reasons for abortion matter, when they all lead to the termination of the fetus? Why is it taboo to say that many women do not use reliable birth control properly and responsibly? Yes, many men are also irresponsible about birth control, but men do not have a range of birth control options available to them, including abortion.Why is it taboo to say that many women are irresponsible about birth control?
I had, literally, *the* most awesome answer EVER...then my account said it was suspended and I lost it because when I went to hit submit it logged me out =o/





In short: I'm pro-choice, not pro-stupidity.





The chances of anyone using birth control properly needing more than one abortion in a lifetime are slim to none.





Rape/sincere lack of sex education aside. Which is a small percentage (I believe) of those getting abortions.





I'll never support the choice to be stupid. Irresponsible is putting it lightly, they oughta thank you for giving them that courtesy. I'm less diplomatic about it o_OWhy is it taboo to say that many women are irresponsible about birth control?
Considering that they give reasons like, ';What's the use of giving birth if the child is going to be abused anyway?';, or ';What's the use of giving birth if the mother isn't ready';, I will say I will have to agree with you. The mother in question may not be ready to take care of a selective sex, it may end up abusing it, so sex-selective abortion is not wrong, if abortion is not wrong.





Further they also say how not all women would have abortion if it is legalized(which it is), I will go on to say that not all women would have sex-selective abortion if it is legalized.
It isn't.





You've just said it, were you arrested?





Yes, if a woman becomes pregnant, even if she didn't properly use birth control, her body is still her body, her life is still her life.





Why do you think pregnant people should have no rights?





Instead of trying to force all pregnant women to live by YOUR rules, why not fight to have all young people have complete and accurate sex education, and to make birth control easily available for all sexually active people?





That way, we'd avoid most unwanted pregnancies in the first place.





Then there are cases where the woman didn't consent to have sex, and thus didn't use birth control.
It's taboo to blame a woman for anything that happens to her sexually because the male is traditionally seen as being the dominant player.





Women have historically been placed as a near silent partner and admitting that they are not is very difficult for some women as it means taking responsibility for their sexuality and sexual health. When you've been able to blame men for the last 5,000 years it's very hard to stop.
Is it taboo to say that? i would think given the amount of single mothers and the even greater amount of teen pregnancies, it would be a given. And given the fact that men have exactly one form of birth control available to them and condoms have a 20% rate of failure, I would have to surmise that it is therefore primarily the woman's responsibilty to use more effective birth control.





As to the rest of your question I really don't prefer to discuss abortion.
I don't think it is taboo to say that.





However, I think you have to consider the age of the woman and the amount of health education she has received. The plethora of abstinence only programs are creating a generation of young people who are ignorant when it comes to safe and effective methods of birth control. How is a young man to learn how to properly use a condom when his educators are limited to saying, ';don't do it so you won't need it';??


How is a girl supposed to know that pills need to be taken at the same time every day unless there is a qualified medical professional to tell her?
Well because the societal norm is to forget the fact that only women can become pregnant and pretend that men have to be ';equally'; responsible for ';her'; body.





It'd be like a sexually transmitted disease that only affected men. Would women have to take ';equal'; responsibility to ensure the men didn't get the disease?





...Or would men have to make damn sure they were protected.





Their body... their responsibility.





Women can toss aside their parental responsibility if they so choose. Abort that little thing %26amp; they're back in business.





If they want to keep the baby, they then get to ';share'; responsibility with the man. ...Even if he never wanted parenthood, he's still ';sharing'; the very responsibility that the woman could have EASILY shirked if she felt like it.





So, women really don't have to be responsible with their bodies due to all of the ';escape routes'; they've been given.
i personally think that abortion is wrong and horrible no matter what the consequences. selective sex abortion is disgusting. if you don't want a baby there are measures to take to not having one. i agree that there are so many forms of birth control on the market. there are ways to prevent it and you should take responsibility for your actions. abortions can cause you to be unable to conceive later on in life. the worst that i have heard about abortions wise is women who get pregnant just to see that they can then get an abortion. it's sick and twisted. i will contradict myself slightly by saying that in some cases when there are hideous birth defects that would make living unbearable or something then maybe get an abortion. i am totally anti it and glad that it is illegal here.
A friend of mine got pregnant while using condoms and birthcontroll pills - and she makes sure she takse her pills at the exact same time every day - she has an alarm on her cell phone for that purpose. Its pretty rare but you can get preggers while still being responsible. As for the ppl who get pregnant while being irresponsible with thier contraception methods - why would you want such ppl to be raising a child if they cant even get sex right?! I mean really, birthcontroll is pretty simple, what kind of an idiot doesnt know how to use it properly?! And those types of ppl should be encouraged to raise a child and/or bring a child into the world containing thier stupid genes?
Because having a child should equal unconditional love regardless of what sex the child is. How can it be right to say that a child of one sex has more right to life than that of another - if we did certain religious cultures around the world would be killing off all the female foetus and certain other ideoligies would be advocating mass genocide of male foetus in the western world.





In answer to your headline question to attempt to suggest that a woman actually take full responsibility for her own well being is quite unacceptable today.
It's taboo to criticize women in any way. It's always someone else's fault. Usually men, but when you can't pin on a man, then it's the media. Then it's her father. Then it's her mother. Then it's PMS. Then it's society. Then it's some kind of mental disorder.





Whatever it is... it's not a woman's fault!
It's taboo to critisise women in anyway, especially when men can be blamed instead.





I challenge you to ask any question ';Why do [*some*, most] women......(something even slightly negative)';





If you manage to do so without Tracey attacking your fragile ego, then I'll eat my hat. (or rather, some candy floss i put on my head)
I didn't know it was taboo. Clearly many women are highly irresponsible about birth control, or there wouldn't be so many abortions. Sex selection cannot account for the enormous number of abortions in western countries, one can only assume that a lot of women nowadays are feckless.
It is NOT taboo. I can see your point.





I agree... I think a lot of women complain about getting pregnant... I mean, why are you having sex anyway when you can't afford a fugging kid?





If you don't want a kid, then use birth control or don't have sex. I know its hard for irresponsible people. ( And men can be irresponsible too... My Daddy dearest has 5 kids, including me... He doesn't talk to any of us. All he wants is sex ).
Having sex with or without birth control is irresponsible if you can't handle the natural result of sex, a child.





That goes for either gender.





I don't see the difference between sex selection abortion and abortion as a form of birth control.
The guy above ';Voice of Reality'; said it right.





It'll never be a woman's fault, how could it be, they never, ever, ever, do anything wrong, not even when they foolishly pi$$ away their husband's ';hard earned'; money on garbage.
With the availability of birth control, the amount of abortions performed is astronomical. Although it's not 100% affective, it does go a long way toward preventing a lot of unwanted pregnancies.
Its taboo in certain circles to ask women to take responsibility.








The language they use ';he got her pregnant';, ';he should have kept it in his pants';.





She should have at least have known where she was in her cycle.
I believe sex-selection abortion is as wrong as abortion of convenience.


Abortion due to real medical issues for the mother or fetus is an obvious tragedy, but potentially necessary.
Because empowering women somehow doesn't entail taking responsibility; it's about blaming someone else or making excuses for a her faults.
are you trying to question the views of liberals and feminists?





they'd never allow that.





dissent isn't tolerated in communist based ideologies.
I dont think it's fair to say that women are irresponsible- it is not just the responsibility of the woman!!
I agree with Miss Theo. Besides, women are obviously not ';responsible'; for anything.
It is taboo to criticize women because men are the real problem in society.
I got pregnant on reliable birth control...twice.
People don't like to hear the truth.
Because you're supposed to blame the man !
Is it? Well then you are very daring, aren't you?
Stop making so much sense, lady!
I actually do not think women do get away with being 'irresponsible' about contraception...in fact the opposite is the case women often carry ALL the responsibility for said control. The language of contraception is often single gendered...in the UK it is common to hear that 'girls and women get themselves pregnant' As for this idea that men's birth control range is limited...well, perhaps that is because it is a simpler process to halt! Women are expected to use a chemical in one form or another 24/7 which we are still not 100% sure of all the side effects..my generation suffered a great many health problems with the pill for example...blood clots, embellism etc. As for other methods , the 'coil' implants the list is endless still involves a foreign object in the body!





So, no its not taboo, to ask a woman to take responsibility for her own sexual health, and reproduction, but to suggest that many use abortion as a contraceptive alternative is also too simplistic; erroneous in many cases and dangerous in others.


In the Communist regime in Romania, contraception was banned,along with abortion and compulsory pregnancy checking implemented for women of child bearing age...sounds idyllic!!!!! Many women overburdened with pregnancy, poverty sought illicit termination, and many died...with real social examples like that you want to express what for men's contraceptive options being limited when those available to women have and can be arbitrarily challenged and banned at the behest of those in power?


So, let me see how this works..answer with fact social, medical and political and get thumbs down...was it the abortion thing? All women use abortion as a means of birth control is of course tosh!
Birth control is so widely available and there is a method for everyone. But too many people are irresponsible. Women go on the pill with full knowledge that they have a tendency to forget to take it when they should and expect that it will work everytime. They agree to have sex without a condom and still expect they won't get pregnant. I never understood that. I've always been one to be cautious. Currently, I have an IUD, my partner wears a condom, and he pulls out. Neither one of us wants to take any chances. But we have discussed what would happen if I should get pregnant anyway. He knows he's not ready to be a mother. I refuse to have a child unless I'm in a long-term, committed relationship with a man who wants a child. So in our case, abortion would be the answer to an unwanted pregnancy. I mean, how can it be wrong when I've done everything I possibly could to prevent that pregnancy?